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5 More Doggie Style Position Variations

Ah, doggie style, the position most animals get it on in, humans being no exception. As one of men's and women's favorite sexual positions, doggie has been a welcome addition to people's sexual lives for ages.
And the last time I advised you on adding some variety to your doggie styles, you maneuvered yourself and your girl into sexual oblivion. Well, now, here are five more variations you can try.

1- Tight-legged
Getting into the typical doggie stance, have your girl keep her legs closed and open yours around them. As well, get her to arch her back and lean on her hands rather than lean down and rest on her elbows on the bed (or whatever surface you happen to be on). To help her maintain that stance, wrap your hand around her hair and give it an occasional tug while you're having sex.

In addition to hair pulling, you can rub her spine lightly and even hug her waist while you penetrate her.

2- Upright torsos
Get into your regular doggie stance, but lift your and your girl's torsos so that you're upright while you penetrate. Doing this in a location where she's facing the wall or, say, the bedpost, will allow her to place her hands there to maintain balance while you're going in and out.

Use your free hands to caress her breasts and butt, rub her shoulders and get a better grip for penetration. This position also allow you room to more easily kiss her mouth and neck.

Get off the bed, then make her get off..

3- Stand down, boy
While she bends over on the edge of the bed, her feet and shins hanging off it, you stand against it and make your way in. Of course, if the bed is too high or you have a significant height difference, you will have to make some adjustments.

She can raise or lower her body to accommodate you, and you can stand straight or bend your knees.

4- Stand down, girl
If she's much shorter than you, you may not want to attempt this position. Otherwise, have her face the other way and bend down so that her butt is sticking out towards you. Her torso should be parallel to the ground.

While you kneel on the edge of the bed, hold on to her hips and make your way in. Make sure to go slowly, as she needs to maintain her balance. Better yet, let her control the tempo.

5- Climb to the top
While she's in position, stand up and place your body right above her butt. Then, bend down so that you can place your penis inside her.

Ensure that you're balanced; otherwise you may end up falling on top of her. Place your hands on her back without pressing down, or use the help of a wall or bedpost to maintain balance.

Be careful not to thrust too quickly initially; ensure that she enjoys the sensation first.


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Now that you have even more variety to add to your bedroom ventures, make sure that you use them sparingly and wisely.
And don't forget that penetration is just a fraction of what good sex entails. Make every moment count.

Until next time, go at it like animals.

Sexual Positions Women Enjoy

Let's face reality; women don't think that reaching orgasm is a lucky shot in the dark anymore -- nowadays, they want their juices to flow and they want it now. Today's sex tip will help every man learn about some of the great sexual positions that most women prefer. And sorry guys, on her knees performing fellatio didn't make the cut.

More often than not, women are assertive and no longer behave like quiet little mice when it comes to sexual scenarios. Actually, the fact that most guys try so hard (there's that play on words again) to get their women to achieve orgasm is quite evident of this fact.

The following are five sexual positions that many women enjoy. So the next time you're about to get down to the nitty-gritty with your woman, try the following positions and ensure that she receives some great orgasmic pleasure.


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Some women love being on top when it comes to sex. Why? It's all about control, and having the liberty of getting herself off is quite tantalizing. If she likes, she can give herself a clitoral or G-spot orgasm, or even both (with your help, of course).
If she lies on top of you and sways back and forth, pressing against your pubic bone, then she's aiming for the clitty climax. If she remains erect but leans forward, resting her weight on her hands while she goes up and down in a constant motion, get ready because she's doing her G-thing.

Then again, there are those multi-talented women that are able to take a man deep inside their vagina, swivel their hips as though they're dancing, and all the while, they periodically squeeze their Kegel muscles. This drives me... I mean men wild.

An even crazier position involves her squatting -- she kneels on her feet and only her vagina and your penis are connected (literally). This is quite an enticing position for both parties involved, although she must have stamina to keep it up.

The best thing about having your woman on top is that you get to watch her enjoy and pleasure herself with your body. You get to watch as she reaches immeasurable orgasmic heights while your hands are free to rub, hold, scratch, and maneuver her taut body.


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Believe it or not, lots of women love the missionary position. Yes, now I know that this position is considered to be the flannel pajamas of sex, but sex doesn't always have to involve swinging from the chandeliers and rough play.
Sometimes women (and even men, believe it or not) want to make "body love," which involves a whole lot more than just a vagina, breasts and a penis. There's eye contact, body massaging, and silent communication -- women love feeling like they're at the center of a man's world and what better way to show her you love her than to literally make love with her?

You don't have to keep up the typical in-out in-out motions of missionary either. Place a pillow under her buttocks, hold your upper body up with your arms, or even hold her butt with your hands (and she can do the same) -- all the while maneuvering as though you're dancing inside her body.


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Although chances are that you won't last for very long in this position (I know I always lose control), an orgasm (or two) is virtually guaranteed for her with this one. Have her sit up on a countertop, tabletop, washing machine, sink -- any surface that'll have her at the perfect thrust position.
Standing in front of her while she's spread eagle (legs open), plunge yourself inside. Because you're going deep within her, it's sure to cause you to reach climax somewhat quickly. As well, you'll be tapping her G-spot at a constant pace and you may even get her to ejaculate all over your member.

Also, since you're out of the bedroom, it adds an element of intrigue and excitement for both of you. Sometimes, even women want to get to the orgasm part of lovemaking rather than have elaborate "last forever" sex. So read your partner's messages and if she's in the mood to reach immediate heights of pleasure, then give the lady what she wants.

She wants you to try the spoon position..


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While she's lying down on her side with her back facing you, you can let yourself inside her from behind. The great thing about this position is that you can hug her, whisper dirty little things in her ear, rub her breasts, feel the silhouette of her body, and kiss, suck and lick her neck and back.
Also, you can vary this position: she can turn her body so that her legs go over yours (her feet are in front of your butt) and she can look at you while you penetrate her at will. This position, as well as the "spoon," is not intended to be fast-paced, but rather slow and rhythmic.

The great thing about this position is that it allows for slow maneuvering and makes women feel like you're enjoying their entire body rather than just the sexualized parts. Even if she can't stand doggy style, she'll still love this position.


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Come on, you knew this one was coming. Many women enjoy this position very much because it allows the man to penetrate them fully. As well, you can cup her body by leaning forward and holding her whilst keeping a constant rhythm.
To add variety to this position, let her lie almost flat on the bed while you remain in the same position. This way, you can move at a leisurely pace and even position your body on top of hers to kiss her back. Under no circumstances, however, should you let your weight fall on her, otherwise you'll be doing it doggy with the blowup doll in your closet.


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Now obviously all women differ, and so not every woman will enjoy the positions I've mentioned. The idea behind sexuality is to understand what the other person likes by getting to know them.
So stop poking anything that looks at you more than once and place some meaning into your sex life. And if you need more help improving your love life, check out the Sinclair Institute and BetterSex.com.

Is She A Virgin?

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Virgin in the dictionary is defined as, "being in a pure or natural state; unsullied. Unused, uncultivated, or unexplored." Nowadays it seems that the only virgins left are our spade and neutered domestic pets, and even they still get excited around the opposite sex.
But nevertheless, if you do happen to come across a unicorn, I mean a virgin, and she has never gone beyond kissing a man, let alone performed any oral ordeals, then she is a genuine, honest to goodness virgin. Now, whether or not you have the patience to wait around until she's ready to let you play around her privates with your slinky is a whole other matter altogether.

But be careful, no woman ever forgets her first, not necessarily because it was such an incredible experience, but rather because she let that person take something that she can never get back. Virginity is prized by most and women who are willing to give it to you habitually have a hard time letting go if things aren't working out.


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If your woman has had a couple of boyfriends but has never been prodded in any orifices, then she too can be considered a virgin, but with a twist. Perhaps a couple of guys have managed to caress her breasts and perhaps even given them a lick or two, but that's still pretty tame compared to today's world of bestiality and S&M.
If you're patient and think that she may be the one -- or more importantly, she thinks you're the one, then you may be the lucky guy that gets to delve into her uncharted waters. You and she can explore things and if she has been dying to unleash the beast within, then your sexual compatibility may lie within her (so to speak).


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Now, onto the juicy part. There are those women that believe that if they perform oral sex on every boyfriend they've ever had, and let him get his fingers sticky every now and then, that they're still virgins. Now they may bleed a bit the first time they have sex, but are they really virgins?
They have experience. I mean if she just lies there the first time you insert your member, but can play the flute on your instrument like she's written symphonies, has she really maintained her purity? At what point do we draw the line? When has the line between purity and experience been crossed?

I personally don't think that a girl who can inhale a kielbasa like it's a toothpick necessarily connotes the virgin type. If virginity lies in a hole and is not about experience, then our society has a very warped definition of what virginity really is.

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Believe it or not, there are gals out there who will let you get into their anal canals, but will still aver that they are virgins. Carnal desires are natural, but anal sex, as well as oral sex (despite what Clinton says), has the word "sex" attached to it because that's exactly what it is. And once you have sex, you are no longer a virgin. Case closed.
So these women are under the illusion that as long as their vaginas remain untouched by the almighty penis, they can still claim to be pure. Pure crud, that is. And if men seem to think that this is a viable argument, then they're just horny and have no qualms about taking the back way in.


the lying virgin

For some lucky women, the vagina shrinks back to its original size if they don't have sex for a while, and the next time they do engage in carnal activity, they bleed. Now does that make them virgins? I don't think so. But that's not what I'm referring to; I'm talking about the women who feel that they have to lie as though not being virgins somehow implies that they're not good women.
In today's world, finding a virgin is as common as seeing Britney Spears in a turtleneck. So why do some women insist on fibbing and saying they are when they're not? That'll probably remain a mystery considering there are a multitude of reasons available. It's funny because it seems that gentlemen are no longer searching for virgins, but rather nice girls who have their head screwed on straight and have a wild streak behind closed doors.

And in hindsight, would men prefer a woman who just lay there and let him do everything because she's "never done this before," or would he prefer a girl who has experience and can ride him like a cowboy (given that she hasn't bedded the town and the farm animals)? You be the judge.


secondary virginity

If there's ever been an oxymoron that blew me away, this one is it. The point of virginity is that once it's gone, it's gone for good. And no matter how long a woman waits, it's not coming back. So these women that say that they've had sex in the past, but now want to wait until they're married before having sex again are really in a league of their own.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to wait until marriage, but let's call it something different, shall we? How about, "it didn't feel good the first time" or "I made a big mistake?" It's definitely not virginity at the secondary, elementary, or even sedentary level for that matter.

If you met a woman and she told you that she has had sex in the past but won't have it again until she's married, wouldn't you be a little miffed that another guy got the goods and yet you can't? I would certainly feel a tinge of anger at the notion if my man wouldn't let me get at the goods that his former girlfriend had full access to. But that's just me.


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What makes women feel that they still have to claim that they are chaste even if they're not? Is virginity still as prized as it once was or has our society become oversexed and numbed by the media?
Obviously there are some very virtuous women who may or may not be virgins, but that's not what's important. What's important is finding someone who is not just compatible on the communicative, intelligent and attractive levels, but on a sexual level as well.

So find yourself a woman who makes your heart (among other things) pulsate and enjoy your time with her. And always wear a condom, even if she's a "virgin."

6 Sex Positions With A Twist

Chances are, if you've been having sex for a while now, you feel like you've tried all sex positions known to man, but you know what? You probably haven't.
That said, why not turn these everyday sex positions into something crazy by adding some little twists. Your girl will keel over with pleasure.

1- Doggy leg lift
The next time your girl assumes the doggy position, simply lift her leg and either keep it against your hip or hold it up by the thigh. This way, you can penetrate her even deeper and your testicles will gently tap against her clitoris more prominently. Or, you can even use your free hand to massage her clitoris and drive her mad.

2- Missionary with pillows
Have your girl lie down on the bed, knees bent, feet planted on the bed. Place a couple of pillows under her ass. This not only allows you to penetrate her more deeply, it provides crazy clitoral stimulation and may well have you both reaching orgasm at the same time.

3- Spoon split
The awesome thing about spooning is that women feel like you're being incredibly affectionate. You also have better access to her body, and can maneuver her around more easily. Next time you decide to spoon, have her twist her body a little so you have access to her breasts. Then, lift one of her legs and either hold it up or try placing it behind you.

4- Reverse cowgirl squat
Instead of her riding you the typical way, kneel down and rest your ass on your heels. Now with her back to you, get her to squat up and down on your penis. If her legs aren't strong enough, she may have to lean on her hands, which is great considering you'll get an optimal view.

5- Standing rhythm
The next time you and your woman decide to stand in front of a mirror and watch yourselves have sex, add a little rhythm to your routine. Have her bend down so that her body is at a 90 angle, legs as straight as possible. Now, as you stand behind her giving her a dose of your mad moves, rotate your hips while you go in and out, slowly. And above all else, look at her body, make turned-on sounds, and then look into her eyes. Finally, give that sweet ass a smack and rub it better.

6- 69 + 1
Now, when you think of the 69 position, you imagine oral sex, of course. But rather than alter the actual position, alter the technique instead. To begin, rather than have one of you on top of the other, lay side by side, as this gives both of you the freedom to maneuver. Now, use your fingers to enhance your oral expertise. Rub her clitoris, penetrate her, do whatever it takes to make her lose control, but not so much that she stops sucking...

Become a Better Lover - 10 Common Mistakes Guys Make!

If you want to become a better lover you need to avoid the mistakes below and they are all surprisingly common.

Avoid the mistakes, take note of the tips and you are guaranteed to become a better, more considerate andmore thoughtful lover, who will please your partner.

So here are 10 common mistakes made in sex and how to become a better lover.

Mistake 1 Being To Quick

Women generally have a different attitude to sex than men and most do not want to be treated as sex objects. So, take note and be considerate.

Treat your partner with the respect they deserve and don't appear you are just after one thing.

Mistake 2 Not Kissing

In a recent poll 90% of women claimed their partners did not kiss them enough!

So make sure sex is preceded by plenty of kissing and cuddling Most women love the intimacy of a kiss! So give your partner what they want.

Mistake 3 Neglecting Female Erogenous Zones

We all know the common erogenous zones such as the clitoris, or the breasts and we have given you another one above the lips.

There are however many more.

Great areas to target are the neck (kissing and nibbling of the neck is highly erotic) and the bottom.

The bottom is an area all women tend to be conscious of so, kiss it caress and make sure your partner knows you love it.

Other great erogenous zones to touch and kiss are the inner thighs (she knows what's coming next) the feet, the back of the knees, the spine and lower back (just at the end of the spine is a highly sensitive area)

These areas will drive your partner wild so target them.

Mistake 4: Complicated Positions Are Best.

No there not!

Quite simply, if a position is to complicated you will spend more time trying to keep the positions going than you will on focusing on pleasing your partner.

There is no correlation between how complicated a position is and how much satisfaction you and your partner derive from it.

Mistake 5 Not Knowing The Best G Spot Positions

There are three great positions for sex there not difficult to do and there not complicated and they are guaranteed to give your partner a mind blowing orgasm.

Why because they are a great way to hit the g spot

We don't have time to explain them in this article but have written several other articles on top positions so check them out.

Mistake 6: Keeping your weight off the woman in sex positions.

Contrary to common myth, women like their partner to press against them and most women like to feel their partner press against them and not stand of them.

Many women like to be pressured by at least some of their partner's weight so they can feel them and feel their weight.

Be sensible here she doesn't want to be crushed, but wants to feel you close

Mistake 7: Women on top, don't make them work to hard.

For most women, sex a passive activity except when she is on top.

Most men take this as a signal to lie back and let her do the work.

Most women prefer some action back, as it is her penetrating your body and she wants to see some reaction as you do from her when you are on top.

Mistake 8: Pleasing Yourself

Of course, you want please yourself but you also need to take your partners feelings into consideration and this leads onto the next point:

Mistake 9: Communicating

Don't be shy about communicating with your partner about what you like and ask them what they like.

Many couples don't want to talk frankly about their desires and this means that they never get what they really want.

Communication is the key to good sex so don't be embarrassed talk to each other and learn each others innermost desires and then try and satisfy them.

This also applies to things you don't like.

Mistake 10 When It's Over It's Over

You finish sex and you're straight off to the shower making coffee or rushing out the door Big mistake!

Why?

This leads on from the point we made earlier in the article that women do not like to be seen as sex objects.

Let them know how much you enjoyed sex with them kiss cuddle, hold and compliment them.

This will go a long way to showing you as a man who cares and most women love this!

So there you have 10 mistakes that are easy to correct and if you do, your partner is sure to appreciate it.

First Time Sex - Losing your Virginity

First time sex is never as straightforward as most people believe. In fact, the expectations usually far exceed the experience. For the male, it may be over all too soon, without a great deal of satisfaction.

Lets look at first time sex from both a male and female perspective and how to approach this critical time in all our lives.

For the female, it can be fraught with pain instead of pleasure, and with a quick ending, far from a pleasurable experience. Approached correctly, however, first time sex can be rewarding and fulfilling instead of the opposite.

The Virgin Male

Depending on where his information can from (about the sexual experience) his basic knowledge will be limited to theory and masturbation.

Neither theory nor masturbation prepares a virgin male for a first time sexual experience.

The conversations of peers also can fill the first timer with misconceptions and wrong expectations.

The Virgin Female

Depending on her age, the virgin female may have had numerous clitoral orgasms. A first time sexual experience and “the force of man” can provide many unexpected situations, and feelings.

If her hymen is in tact, she may be in for some real pain as well.

If there has not been sufficient foreplay, there may not also enough lubrication prior to the male insertion.
The female may be very young and also with high expectations. Certainly if the act is about 20 seconds, and all she felt was pain and pressure, her romantic expectations will not have been fulfilled.

Preparation

It is advised that the couple experiment first with mutual masturbation.

This way the partner learns something about the other’s anatomy, and the stimulation (which can be overwhelming) can result in orgasms without penetration at the start.

This technique can lead into another session (after some recovery time, say 45 minutes) where penetration can begin.

The female should insist (and the male must agree) to use of a condom.

However in a warm-up session (that will almost always end up with a male orgasm), a condom need not be used.

In the second or third attempt, where penetration is the goal, the male’s penis would have been desensitized by the all the preliminaries.

Oral sex for first timers is a good idea, but difficult to be good at.

With two inexperienced partners, oral sex or mutual oral sex may end up as a messy and non-romantic prelude to penetration.

Therefore, unless one of the two partners really have some experience in oral sex, it’s best left for another time.

Time to Penetrate

If the female is a virgin with her hymen intact, the couple should use Astrolube or KY (or similar) that will help reduce the initial friction.

With adequate lubrication (and the female wont have much of her own if she is afraid of the act, even though she is willing. Use adequate lubrication.

The best first time sex position is with the female laying her side, and the male in back of her, with their legs lightly bent at the knees.

The couple sort of resembles 2 spoons. The male can caress the female, and hold her, while the female can assist the male to insert his penis easily into her vagina.

As the couple is on their sides, the female can sort of regulate the pressure, and the depth o f the male’s penetration.

If she feels pain, the female can alter the depth of the penis and even the angle.

Usually the first times will finish in less than 5 minutes. The man can continue to hold the female tightly and caress here, and tell to her sweet things about their experience.

Following the above will save the couple some pain and hurt feelings. We wish you good luck, and hope to what you learned here into your later sexual lives.

Best Sexual Position for Spontaneous Sexual Encounters

In the best sexual positions series we have discussed the best sexual positions for most situations that can arise.

One special situation is for spontaneous sex, and this is something that is totally unpredictable, and thus, knowing the best sexual position in advance can make the magic of a spontaneous sexual encounter last in your memory forever.

Spontaneous Sexual Encounters

Often portrayed in films and written about in books, the spontaneous sexual encounter is more or less another name for the Americanized word, ‘quickie’.

This will be sex in the office, or out of doors, in an elevator, or even an airplane.

The quickie will give you from 1 to 5 minutes maximum, and often there will be a space problem. The other problem is clothing, and for the spontaneous encounter, you will need to keep as much of your clothing on as possible, as in spontaneous sexual encounters, there is always the risk of being “caught in the act”.

The Best Sexual Position for Spontaneous Sexual Encounters

The very best is called the standing spoons. Assuming the encounter begins by kissing, once the couple have passed the moment of decision (to or not to), then the man must turn the woman around so she has to back to the man.

The clothes on the upper part of the body are not required to be removed (regardless of how it is done in films), and concentrate on getting the lower clothes to the knees at least or better the ankles. The man then embraces the woman with one arm, and uses the other to position himself.

The woman does the same. One arm is used to hold the man, usually around his neck, but holding her arm back over her own head, and the other is used to facilitate penetration.

Both the man and woman bend their knees slightly, and come together very closely, like two spoons resting together. As penetration is made the couple move in unison with push and recoil.

This is the action, and as entry was made from the rear, both the g-spot and the clitoris are stimulated.

It is very much like a dance, and indeed the movements from new club dancing should be used if the couple understands how to do it.

The very term spontaneous often means that there is not enough time to prepare for all eventualities.

That means, that use of a condom may not be possible.

Therefore, while enjoying the spontaneity of the event, the man and woman must think where the man is going to finish. If inside the woman, then there is no problem, if outside (a term known as coitus interruptus ) the man should terminate in his own free hand, as not to cause a mess.

Remember time is of the essence here, and a quick dressing after the session will not be possible if the man is careless about where he deposits his sperm.

Finishing Up

There are other sexual positions possible for spontaneous sexual encounters, but the standing spoons is by far the best from the standpoint of mutual satisfaction, speed to penetrate, react and completion, and should it be interrupted or discovered, it is the fastest position to recover one’s equipoise.

Foreplay – 10 Tips to Drive your Partner Wild With Passion

Foreplay is an essential ingredient of a satisfying sexual relationship.

Women in particular like lots of foreplay to help them achieve orgasm and of course men love it to.

Here are ten tips to help you get more from foreplay and drive your partner wild with passion.

1. Don’t Forget To Kiss

90% of women in a recent poll said they liked to kiss more, so make sure that you kiss your partner and do it with passion.

The basics of kissing your partner are explained fully in our other articles, but the trick is:

To relax, use variety follow your partner, use your body and do it with passion.

Kissing is one of the best ways to show love and desire and is deeply personal, so make sure you do it correctly.

2. Target The Neck

If you want to target one erogenous zone to make your partner moan with ecstasy, it’s the neck.

It’s guaranteed to make any women melt and feel hot and sexy.

Make sure you lick, kiss and nibble it.

3. Target ALL The Erogenous Zones

We all know the obvious erogenous zones, but make sure you target them all.

Great erogenous zones include:

The back, and pay particular attention to the buttocks.

Most women have reservations about their bottom so show her how much you love it. Stroke it, kiss it and tell her how beautiful it is.

Other great erogenous zones include:

The ears – An incredible amount of nerve endings are situated here.

The feet – Reflexology targets the feet due to the connection they have to the rest of the body.
Make sure you take time to massage and kiss them, it’s a great way to relax your and turn your partner on.

The backs of the knees - Not really thought of as an erogenous zone, but an incredible amount of nerve endings are situated here.

The Inner thighs – Are highly sensitive and a great tease as your partner will wonder where your hands and lips will wander to next.

4. Oral Sex

There is not enough room here to cover all the ways to turn your women on with oral sex (see our other articles) but one thing is a must:

Communication – Many women complain that their partners do not do oral sex correctly.

So communication is a must, ask her exactly how she likes it and follow here lead.

Many women become very self conscious and think their partners are simply doing it to please them.

Show them you are enjoying it and they will relax and enjoy the experience even more.

5. Use Massage

Many women need to be relaxed to enjoy sex and get ready for full intercourse so add some sensuous oils into foreplay and pay attention to the back shoulders and the feet.

6. Set The Mood

Relax before hand and show you have made an effort.

Take her to dinner or make sure you have champagne on ice show your partner you care love and desire them.

For women sex is not purely a physical act, it’s a mental experience so show your partner how much you care.

7. Tease

Foreplay should be fun and not finish too soon.

Practice bringing your partners desire up and then moving away from the area targeted, tease her until she can take no more.

This will heighten the expectation and make full sex much more fulfilling when it comes.

8. Communicate

You need to explore your partner’s inner desires and try and please them. Many couples are reluctant to talk about sex but your both adults and you need to do so.

Don’t rely on trial and error, make sure you talk frankly and openly.

9. Try Something New

Don’t go through the same routine every time!

Sex will get boring add some different aspects and experiment.

This may mean introducing toys, food or whatever else you can think of.

Nothing kills a relationship more than predictability and boredom.

10. After Sex
Don’t just walk out – take time to tell your partner how much you enjoyed the experience.

Kiss cuddle and tell her how wonderful it was – Make your partner feel wanted.

So there you have 10 tips that will increase the pleasure of foreplay more and make sex far more enjoyable, for both you and your partner.

Sex Can Get Better as you Approach Mid-life

As you grow older, you realise that love and intimacy can mean a variety of things, and this wisdom leads you also to understand that, like many things, sex too can become better as you approach mid-life. You can express so many things through it, you realise, and there are so many ways to enjoy its full pleasure!

How can you get over your negative mental baggage, all the complexes and inhibitions that hold you back - and be at ease as you act on this realisation? Just think about it! Isn't living an ongoing process, and don't you learn something new every single day? Well, it is the same with sex. Even, if you have been married to the same person for decades, you can both keep your sexual batteries charged, if you act in tandem with each other. And there is the additional advantage that sexual fulfilment can help bring a greater balance in other aspects of your married life too.

What is the secret of having good sex? It is that good sex needs quality, time, eagerness and liveliness. With these, you can reap exquisitely erotic and emotional rewards. In life, practice makes one perfect, and this maxim applies to sex too. Practice is for you to embark on a silly and uninhibited hunt with your love in bed!

Sex becomes fabulous, if you are always trying to improvise. Remember that this is one thing at which you become better as you grow older. All the practice you put in during your younger years now pays off! We, after all, learn a lot from our various experiences as we mature and allow hidden impulses to rise to the surface. We learn what turns us on and what turns us wild!

We then wish we had known all this when we had been younger - but Nature knows the best! After all, if we had had this kind of adrenalin rush when we had been younger, by now we'd be jaded! In our youth, we are in a hurry to achieve an orgasm, but in mid-life, it is drawn-out pleasure that we want.

By mid-life you know what turns your partner on and how to please him or her. This is because we are sexually smarter in our 40s than we were in our early 20s. According to Ted Mcllyenna PhD, MD, Sexologist and Director of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Sexuality in San Francisco, California, partners can take their sex lives to even higher levels by understanding that they can constantly discover new ways to turn each other on. They can do this by discussing their sexual wants, needs and fantasies.

When older people from a range of backgrounds were asked what they wished they had known about sex when they had been younger, they had different things to say but they agreed on one thing. This was that being good in bed and really enjoying sex is all about being at ease with your partner and yourself so that both feel relaxed and confident.

"Be honest about what you want and learn to ask for it," said Stephen who is retired. He added, "Devote more time to sex by going to bed early and then spend the night kissing, massaging, stroking and cuddling each other!" "Girls don't bite unless you want - them to," said Mike, who is an entrepreneur. He went on to say that sex is very fulfilling when we concentrate on giving bliss to each other without worrying about our own performance.

SEX IS A BLAST

"Sex is a blast both for your brain and your body when you are creative and you eagerly explore your fantasies," said Abie, a journalist. Julie said, "Don't be hung up on gspots and multiple orgasm! And remember, clitoral stimulation helps a lot!" So, take the initiative and be lively so that sex retains its freshness. In middle age, sex is not just about performance expertise and physical satisfaction. It is about forming new emotional bonds.

As we grow older the sexual" insecurities of adolescence sometimes resurface. But we can overcome these and take our sex life to new heights by exploring our bodies, feelings and needs anew.

Experimentation helps people lighten up, feel new sensations and stop worrying. This will bring a playful magic into our sex lives.

Casual Sex – Reflections on Casual Encounters

In our world today, of a great many people living alone, casual sex in clubs and other places is not as uncommon as many people would believe.

Certainly there are clubs where causal sex is sought and offered, but also, there are times and places where causal sex just happens.

Read more so you are ready, and know what to do and how to react.

Social Mores

Depending on your society, sex can be a subject of taboo and restriction, or rather free and causing no special thought. If you are in a society where sex is highly regulated, then casual sex may not be for you, or in any event, you must be clever enough to consider the consequences.

In many areas, casual sex is considered a regular event.

If you are visiting a strange place, you should acquaint yourself BEFORE you go as to the social mores connected with casual sex.

Protection

With sexually transmitted disease in some parts of the world running to epidemic levels, unless you like playing Russian Roulette with your health and life, you must always be protected.

A simple condom is a start, but also some good reminders to try and avoid as much of an exchange of bodily fluids as possible.

The Quickie

If you are after an hour or two in a bed, then casual sex is not your thing.

If you have managed to remove yourself and your partner from one location to the other, then you have moved out of the realm of casual sex into something more structured.

In casual sex, we are looking at a “quickie’ of the 3 to 10 minute sexual encounter.

It is usually done with the positions described below, and over almost before it begins.

It is seldom the woman will finish, but quite possible on the action (thrusting) and technique of the man.

The man will have no problem finishing in most cases.

Best Positions for Casual Sex

The best position for casual sex (where lying down on a bed is not possible) is the Standing Spoons, and Pinned against the Wall.

Standing Spoons. The woman will turn her back to the man, and depending on the woman’s height (including high heel shoes in the equation), she will adjust her buttocks to align with the man’s erect penis.
Usually the woman will bend her knees a bit, the man will grab the woman around her waist, and the woman will assist in the penetration.

Once penetrated, the couple will move as if they were dancing, but in a coordinated movement, with the man thrusting and woman repelling to the coming thrust.

This causes a great stimulation of the woman’s clitoris, and if the position is well done, the g-spot as well. It is possible for a normal sexually experienced woman to orgasm in about 7 minutes on the average.

Pinned Against the Wall. As the name suggests, the woman will face a wall, and place her hands on the wall, supporting her from being too crushed.

The woman will spread her legs and squat just a little (if required) for the man to penetrate.

Once penetrated, the man must do all the work, as the woman is not a good position to help. This is a good position however for g-spot stimulation.

The man should not thrust violently, but offer a slow and steady rhythmic thrusting, and in about 10 to 12 minutes the woman should also reach an orgasm (if the man can last that long).

Remember to always be protected, as you life may be in the balance.

Foreplay – Secrets From Casanova’s Memoirs

It is highly doubtful that many people today have read the whole 4 volume autobiography of Casanova’s life.

It is after all, literature, and not in any sense pornography.

However a careful read though gives one the feeling of the 18th Century in Europe (as Casanova traveled in many countries).

His sexual conduct was limited to only 167 conquests, which by today’s standards, would rate him as an average lover in Moscow or perhaps Los Angeles.

He was, however, a master of seduction, and his techniques of foreplay, as appropriate today as it was over 200 years ago.

Planning

To say that Casanova was spontaneous in his approach to bedding women would be a mistake.
He was a careful planner, something akin to a general to an impending battle.

He would do research on the target (meaning he was a proto-psychologist), and also, carefully think ahead of ways to achieve his desired result. Most of his plans were clever, and very entertaining to read about.

Pleasing His Perspective Partner

Being Italian, and of great the great city Venice, Casanova was a master of many of the personal arts, one among them cooking.

In a tavern or home, he was very careful to either prepare his meals himself, or to supervise their preparation.

He had a few standard “pleasers” for his women, as he knew they were sure to please. They were

• Hot or cold chocolate drink. Remember, chocolate and coffee were still novel at that time

• Shell fish, especially the oyster. He was the first to write about its aphrodisiac qualities

• Sparkling wine and fruit (one might imagine strawberries).

• Always a desert with a variety of sweets presented

You can see from the list above, Casanova was ingenious in the use of foods as a tool for seduction.
Meals during that period were not delicate, but heavy with stews and soups.

Casanova would prepare (or have prepared) meals of utmost delicacy and spare no expense.

His only idea was to please his partner but catering to their basic desires, eating being one of them

During the Meal Foreplay Strategy

Casanova would measure the courses, and the meal to match his conversation and stories.

He would spark the lady’s imagination with stories from his esoteric repertoire and even indicate to them their fortunes.

His concept was to break down any conditioned responses to rejecting his advances. So, keeping the stomach full, the head light, and the mind occupied did the trick.

All this during the meal itself.

Casanova would take the meal across from the lady, but slowly he would sit closer, and by the dessert, he
and the lady were in very close company.

Closing Techniques

Closing (the word as used today as in a contract or sale) was his greatest talent. He knew the value of foreplay, and employed it in all its aspects.

The final form of finally kissing and fondling his prospective partner came after much teasing and implication.

Casanova was never rude, or crude in any way, and in his refined and elegant manner, slowly broke down the walls of the lady’s castle and entered with her complete surrender.

In Today’s World

Use of Casanova’s methods are still valid today.

Women still love to be pampered, and just seeing a man so concerned about the preparation of the meal, and its presentation is a great foreplay technique in its own right.
Try our hero’s techniques, and when you see them working, remember him fondly, as this would have pleased him greatly.

Dating Advice: Top 5 Dating Tips to Help you Date Sexy Women No Matter your Looks, Age or Income

As the dating tips master who has helped millions of men date sexy women no matter their looks, age or income, I've heard all of the stories. I hear it over and over—"It was going so great, and then she disappeared on me… why? What happened? We were having such a great time together. I'm tired of this happening. I want to date sexy women, but I want them to stick around. Do you have any dating tips for me?"

Every time a guy tells me this, I discover he's making the exact same dating mistakes that most guys do. These dating mistakes can kill your chances of successfully dating sexy women.

Here Are My Top 5 Dating Tips to Help You
Skyrocket Your Success with Sexy Women:

Dating tip #1: Don't date. Yes, you heard me right. I said don't date. Think about a traditional "date." It's full of pressure, awkwardness, evaluation and it just plain sucks. What do you do on a traditional date? Dinner, movie, kiss goodnight, and then she doesn't return your calls. Trust me, it's much better (and cheaper) to meet for coffee. It's fun and relaxed with none of the normal dating expectations.

Dating tip #2: The less you do and say, the more she's attracted to you. Most guys try to impress sexy women. Sexy women have heard it all before. But, if you ask her about herself, shut up and listen, and display a SMALL degree of interest, she'll begin to wonder why you're not slobbering all over her. She'll want to discover more. Now you're a challenge, and sexy women love challenging guys.

Dating tip #3: Be a gentleman but also be a "naughty little boy." Remember the "class clown" in elementary school—the guy who was cool and funny all at the same time? When you're talking to sexy women, make unexpected and mischievous comments. Leave them thinking, "I can't believe he just said that… but I like it." This shows sexy women you're NOT impressed by their looks and you need to see more. And because this is so different from what they're used to, they can't help but be attracted. I cannot emphasize the importance of this dating tip.

Dating tip #4: Avoid all canned pick up lines or any type of acting. Sexy women have heard it all before. As soon as you spout one, you're instantly what I call a JAG (just another guy). And JAG's don't get sexy women!

Dating tip #5: Look out for her tests. Sexy women will test you to see if you'll stand up to them. If you can't stand up to her, you can't stand up for her. If she asks you to buy her things, that's a test. It's also a perfect opportunity to be a naughty little boy as described in dating tip #3. Say something like, "What do I look like an ATM machine? You should buy ME something, just for the privilege of spending time with me. I like sexy women who buy me things!" Say this in a playful, yet firm manner that lets her know you're onto her. When you pass their tests, it drives sexy women wild with desire.

Obviously there are lots of other dating tips, tricks and secrets you can put to use to grab a hold of the sexy woman of your dreams and never let her go. But if you pay attention to these dating tips, you'll be a whole lot more successful with sexy women. I guarantee it. So, go re-read all the dating tips again now and start having more fun on your dating adventures!

Best Sexual Positions – Centuries Old But Still Great Postions Today!

Here we are going to look at some sexual positions from history that despite being thousands of years old are still popular today and give immense satisfaction to both men and women.

In 14th century Italy lived one of the greatest poets and writers of all time; the famous Giovanni
Boccaccio.

In his timeless masterpiece, the Decameron, the reader finds 100 stories, covering a whole panorama of subjects.

Clothed in symbology, but clear nevertheless to the intellectual reader, one can find clear eroticism in a few of the stories.

Boccaccio was a master of language and symbolism, and was able to describe a sexual technique popular
at the time.

It concerns two lovers’ efforts to fill their sexual activity with great variety.

They appear to stumble on a position that enhances the grip the vagina has on the man’s penis. This would be ideal for a man with a smaller (or in today’s language, normal penis)

The Male Penis in the 13th and 14th Century

Not a great deal is known, as even preserved penises shrink to very small sizes (Napoleon who was reported to have a very large penis had his penis preserved after his death.

It is on show at a Paris museum. It is a poor blackened fossil of about 2 inches). The statues of the period (especially those of Michelangelo) show men with rather small and delicate penises.

The Sexual Position in Boccaccio

It appears the woman is on her back, with a pillow under her buttocks.

This raises her hips very much toward the man. The man is standing, and places himself between her
legs.

He will lovingly raise the lady’s thighs high as possible, pressing them even to her breasts. The man then grabs the lady’s arms, in a loving embrace.

At this point, the man will penetrate the woman, finding this position has compressed her vagina, and making it very tight and close. The sensation is wonderful for both the man and woman.

The man should not thrust but press and rotate hips leaving his penis fully inserted.

This brings an exquisite pleasure to the woman as the man’s penis is up against the g-spot and the man feels the full pressure from the vagina’s muscles and compressed space.

The man must keep his penis fully inserted, and make false thrusts with his hips as pressure only.

The circular and gyrating motion of the man’s hips can be fully reciprocated by that of the woman.

As this position is quite tiring for the woman, she usually will real her climax and crisis very quickly, and usually with whole body spasms.

Boccaccio suggests that after such lovemaking, the couple will lay together and gaze into each other’s eyes, giving some spiritual pleasure to a transforming physical experience.

The couple should lie first in silence till their systems have returned to the quiet state. A gentle sleep can follow, taking the couple to even higher spiritual feeling.

After this small rest, the man (if he has slept, even for a moment) may find himself fully recovered for additional sexual activity.

The woman will also be quite ready. A repeat of the position above is not recommended, but a side-to-side position with rear entry.

Sex in the Car - a Guide for Maximum Pleasure

Sounds like something for teenagers, but actually having sex in an automobile may be your only chance for real privacy and satisfaction.

Unlike an inexperienced teenager however, this "expert's guide" will give you some perfect foreplay and 3 winning positions in the back seat.

It can be rewarding at any age, and a welcome change from the bedroom. Variety is the spice of life, and this is a good variant.

If the moment has arrived, and you are both willing, move your front seats as far forward as they will go, and also make sure the "rake" (or incline of the back of the seat) is at its maximum forward as well.

Back Seat Foreplay

Don't waste time in getting completely undressed, only from the waste down. The girl can remove her bra, and you can fondle her breasts quite well with the blouse or top in place.

Do not neglect to be as passionate as possible, kissing and fondling, until both of you are breathing heavy with desire.

The best foreplay is, of course, fetllatio and cunnilingus. For this, and in the car, the sixty-nice position, but from side to side is perfect.

Try to bring the woman to orgasm in this way, but if you are the man reading this, hold on. The best is yet to come.

The 3 Best Positions for Sex in the Car.

When the foreplay is over, go for these 3 positions, and if possible, all in this order, arriving to your orgasm(s) at the 3rd position.

• Facing the Music.

In this position, the man is on his back with his head only slightly resting against the rear of the seat back, and his legs stretched out as much as possible, but only slightly apart. The woman will mount him, with her legs astride his, and will be penetrated as she eases into position.

The man can help her rise and fall by holding her waist and buttocks. This position will stimulate both the clitoris and the G-Spot. Continue for as long as possible, then move on to the next position.

• Easy Rider.

Here the woman just turns around the other way from facing her partner, to them both looking in the same direction. The man again assists as much as possible in her rising and falling on him, and this position is a wonder for G-spot stimulation.

Let the woman rise and fall in a slow rythmic motion, and by this time, you may both be ready to finish. If you can, don't and more to the third position.

• Easy Rider Crash Position.

While in the Easy Rider position, have the woman bend forward as much as possible, and follow her as she does so. You are in a modified doggy-style now, with the woman's genital area fully exposed and it can be a very exciting and erotic view.

Now is the man's turn to thrust, and he should do go with stronger and deeper thrusts than were done with the previous two positions. Climax and orgasm will now come quickly and profoundly.

Cooling Down - Continued Intimacy

Many men make the error to just quickly dress and get back to the front seat.

This is an error.

After your experience, try about 10 minutes of continued kissing and some quiet embracing.

Tell you partner how you feel about them and try to slowly, not quickly return to your normal routine. Ideally you have passed about 30 minutes in foreplay and 40 minutes in sexual union, so you are both a bit tired and resting together is a good idea to increase you togetherness and passion.

Try sex in a car and you will find its exciting and fun and will enhance your relationships even if you are not a teenager!